Girls Trip, Oh the Lessons!
Girls Trip was, by far, one of the best movies I've seen all year. It was a feel-good movie, and it was a perfect choice for me and my girls. I really didn't know what to expect from the film; I hadn't watched too many ads. I did however, see quite a few people attest to how good it was. That, in itself, was enough for me. Although "erbody" opinion isn't always reliable.
We will save that topic for another day.
I arrived at the theater uber early. Actually, I got there on time and my friends were late. ha! We were all there to celebrate one our tribe member's birthday, and when I tell you that her hubby went all out for us...he went all out. He got us tickets at the lounge theater; the one with leather, reclining seats. Who does that? Him! And, I am ever so grateful. I remember texting boo to describe the theater, and he replied don't go to sleep.
I have a bad habit of falling asleep in movies, especially if I just ate, it's cold, or it's late. Luckily for the tribe, the movie, and my esteem, none of the above applied. I was locked and loaded, and ready to laugh.
And laugh I did.
The movie was put together awesomely however, I will admit there were quite a few predictable moments. I don't know if it was because I am a writer and I could just see where the story was headed or if the story line gave it away. Either way it goes, there were quite a few moments that I knew what was going to happen.
The story line consisted of four friends who were so different, yet so crucial to the sisterhood their friendship created. Each of them played a role in the movie (and their friendships) ending on a high note.
I don't even have a favorite because they all were that good and their characters were developed to a T. But I did wonder which friend I was. We even asked each other who did we identify with and the consensus was that we were a combination of them all. Our answers, the story line, and the events of the weekend prompted me to create a list of takeaways.
The most successful of the bunch, you know the ones who appear to have it all together, may be the very ones who need support. That was Ryan. Her book was a hit, she had a handsome husband, she was beautiful, and it didn't seem like her career was letting up anytime soon. From the outside looking in, she had it all. So much so, that she entitled her book, You can have it all.
I knew as soon as I saw her character and the backstory that it was a load of crap. Not because I don't believe you can have it all but because her all seemed a little too spotless. All isn't perfection, it just appears that way by its name. All is peace of mind, it's feeling good about the decisions you've made, and have the freedom to continue making them without regret. All is also love, self love first and foremost and then the love you receive from others. I think it's important that I emphasize that all is not perfection, its peace.
Because of Ryan's "seeming" fascination with having perfection, she went into hiding. Not from the world, obviously. She went into hiding from her friends, because they knew her best. Not only did they know her, they would call her out on her (insert explicative here). We all need friends like that, and there Ryan was hiding from hers. Fortunately, she realized that her success wasn't dependent on her being perfect. Turns out, people relate to authenticity even more. Ha! And her revelation happens just in time for her to drop some dead weight and welcome the bonds of her sisterhood back into her life.
Have you ever dated someone and it changed you. Like, you went in one way and I'll be xxxx if you didn't come out somebody completely different. Where did you go?
Suppressed, in hiding, buried deep underneath who you feel you need to be to survive. Sheesh! That was Lisa. Let me pause for a second to mention I love that they chose Jada to be homely looking, that made for a bomb glow up. Anyway, she apparently was party patty in college but her marriage changed that. When it ended, she was left with two children, living with her mother, and a celibate lifestyle. Not that there's anything wrong with any of the aforementioned, aside from the fact that it wasn't her. It wasn't who her friends knew her to be. And, frankly it affected how she raised her children.
Although, the movie doesn't give you much in terms of the lifestyle of the children, judging from the five to seven minute glimpse we got as she packed, I can conclude that she's a smotherer. Throw some perm on your attitude Lisa, you need to relax. She was the uptight friend, wearing scrubs and moos moos for the trip. Like, come on girl.
She was the friend that needed a break from life. And, some other things but we won't get into that. Lisa was at the club telling people how certain foods have her shooting off like Houston Rocket....stop it. It was pretty bad but hey, poop matters.
The reality is we all get rusty when it comes to whats acceptable conversation. Actually, those of us who don't get out much and have only the conversations with our children to keep us fresh are the ones who are rusty. When relationships don't work out, don't change who you are. Sure, there will be some things that you will need to adjust to cope but how much should it change who you are?
Did I mention how much I love the cast? They did such a great job casting the "friends." I wouldn't have changed a thing, which brings me to Sasha. OMG she was so perfect for this role, and the moment in the movie when they referenced Set it Off...classic. Sasha was a mess in many ways, she was doing a job that she was better than, she was behind on her bills, and she was holding grudges. But, the one thing I can say is that amid all that she was going through, she was still loyal.
She faked the funk with the tags in her clothes, but for the most part, she was real. She tried to help Ryan get in front of the blow, and sure she would have gained from the exclusive but I think overall she wanted to help her friend. If she wanted to profit from her demise, she could have just posted the picture as soon as it was sent to her. But, she didn't. She's the kind of friend you need, the one who won't take the opportunity to stab you in the back when it wouldn't really take much effort on their part.
When I heard about the Time's magazine incident, I was annoyed with Ryan but I understand that when you're focused on your career you step on people. The truth sucks but it doesn't make it any less real. The best thing that could have happened was when Ryan fixed what she broke in Sasha by offering her the costar role in her new show. I jumped for joy. Friendship prevails. Their story was confirmation that when you do good, good things will happen. Sasha had a chance to correct her financial issues with leaking that story. That would have allowed her to get current on her bills, but she passed on the opportunity and look what she got....a deal that would get her ahead on them bills. Yassssss, Sasha for the win.
Okay, I lied...Dina was my favorite of the four but probably not for the reason you think. I liked Dina because she was who she was. She didn't try to change that, sugar coat it, or water it down. She was just real, and on top of that she was loyal. Ready to throw blows for girls, if it came to that.
Sure, she was the Alan of the group, drugging friends to ensure they had a good time but her intentions were pure. She just wants her girls to be happy. She wants them to have fun. She wants them to let loose. And, how could you not with a friend like her?
Ultimately, this movie was a reminder of how normal we all are. We all want it all in some way or another. And, in pursuit of that all we tend to over look red flags and sacrifice things that shouldn't be sacrificed. We all have been changed in someway as a result of a relationship; we don't plan to change. But, bad breakups have a way of making you do things you never thought you would. We all are grinding to one goal or another and along the way, we experience bumps, we do things we shouldn't, we lose our way and have to dust ourselves off and hope that the good we've done is enough to bring some good back our way. We all want to let loose and be free, whether we actually do or not is a different story. But, deep down we wish we could be uninhibited. Oh, the freedom in not caring what people think of you.
Girls Trip was real; it was down to earth; it was relatable, and it was fun.
Which Girl are you?